Vol 11, Issue No. 11 – November 2012

Dear Friend

I am sorry for the delayed November Ezine, but Haseeb and I were away to celebrate our Silver Jubilee Wedding Anniversary to a remote resort in Langkawi Malaysia, to rekindle our relationship.

We spend all our life, fulfilling our professional commitments and put aside what is most important to us – our personal allegiances. Time passes so quickly and before we know it we are governed by the schedules of our work which makes us tense and we show it to the people we love. It is so unfair that we are polite and courteous to our colleagues, clients and bosses, who amount to marginally less in the overall life and are abrupt, rude and angry to the people we love!

We need to realize that a spouse/partner is the foundation, which is keeping us from crumbling to the pressures around us; but that also means that the entire burden is resting on that fragile supporting structure. Any time it creaks, our first reaction is anger and reprisal. Is that not so? Whenever we hear any complaint, we lash out, pointing out at the insensitivities on the part of our partner at not realizing the burden on us. We are oblivious to the strains they carry due to our baggage.

Work, business, children, family obligations etc take most of our time in life, specially during the initial few years of our life. We are juggling with several roles in life, always short of time to fully meet the deadlines. At that stage, we feel time is dragging, but slowly all those demands on our life become fewer, and we look back in life to see how much ground we have covered. Children leave the nest, work becomes repetitively easy, friends have moved on. At that point in time, we have the luxury to spend quality time with our second other, but we feel too much water has run under the bridge and we have nothing more to talk about to your companion. It is like two strangers residing under the same roof.

Like all projects in life, this relationship needs to be planned, nurtured and empowered. If this is not done in time, the result is remains/ruins of what was a beautiful structure waylaid by carelessness and maintenance. Read More

Featured Articles
5 Common Mistakes in Setting Personal Development Goals

Setting personal development goals is important since it creates a clear direction of where your life should be heading. Goals encourage you to grow and become the person that you want to be. They help you achieve things that you probably think impossible for you to achieve.

If you don’t have your own set of goals, you might spend the rest of your life fulfilling the goals of the people around you.

However, you need to be very careful when setting goals for yourself. If you don’t do it right, it is more likely that you will only be wasting your time and efforts. If you want to create significant changes in your life, you have to avoid the common goal setting mistakes listed below.

1. Not putting your goals in writing. Just like any other things, writing your goals down allows you to remember them easily. It will also help you keep your focus on what you really want instead of the random things that come to your mind every single day. It gives certain clarity on what you have to achieve, allowing you to come up with better strategies for success.

2. Not creating a system for remembering your goals. Although, writing down goals is a good start, you need to have a system for remembering them. You need to be constantly reminded of the things that you have to do. One way of doing this is by writing your goals on a piece of paper. Then, put that paper where you can always see it such as on your bathroom door, work/study table or computer monitor. Read More

10 Management Lessons

A business amounts to little without the people behind it. The two most important things I look for when hiring are initiative and work ethic. I cannot overestimate the importance to the eventual success of your business of bringing on good people. But once you have hired these good people, how do you manage them?

1. Have a vision and communicate it
Make sure you clearly communicate your vision for the company. No one follows a leader who cannot communicate the way in which the company will succeed. The future of all your employees is tied closely to the success of your company. Make sure they believe in your company, what it stands for, and its products and services, and make sure they know that the hard work they are putting in now will payoff.

2. Show respect
Treat people, including your customers, suppliers, partners, and employees, with respect at all times.

3. Share your success
Make sure your employees share in the success of your company. As the company is able, provide additional benefits such as health care and dental coverage or a stock options plan. As your employees’ skills and abilities grow, reward them with fair compensation. Finally, consider incentivising your top employees and managers with ownership in the company. Few things can make a person work harder than a piece of the action. Read More


Editor’s Choice

The Illuminated Prayer: The Five-Times Prayer of the Sufis

by: Coleman Barks, Michael Green


The Prayer is a drawing of the curtain, an invitation to a secret place that is discovered and explored. . . .

According to tradition and the testimony of Sufi mystics, The Prayer–or Salat–was first taught by the angels, who themselves practiced it in celestial adoration. The Prayer is God’s gift to all humankind, and in this gorgeously illustrated volume, its simple, archetypal practice unfolds like a fragrant, many-petaled flower, joining words and movements into a single luminous event that engages our entire being.

ISBN-10: 0345435451
ISBN-13: 978-0345435453

A Glimpse of Intek’s Previous Workshops

Attention to Sales
Customised for EMS – BlackBerry
Dubai – UAE, 2012
Psyche’s Realm
5 Mind Relaxation Exercises To Feel Calm And Relaxed

In today’s fast-paced world, practicing mind relaxation exercises is a good habit to have. This way, you will be able to manage stress better and you won’t find yourself making rash or impulsive decisions.  

When you feel like your head is about to explode, isn’t it comforting to know that there are ways to handle the situation neatly?

Here are 5 effective mind relaxation exercises that you might find helpful.

Exercise 1: Count From One To Ten.

There’s a reason why people keep telling you to count from one to ten before you blow your top. Counting can draw your mind away from the issue at hand. It allows your temper to subside and weakens the object of your negative attention. Read More


Cross Cultural Awareness
Global Non-Verbal Signals – Australia & Bangladesh


  • Australian men are not expressively emotional. To be overly physically demonstrative is sometimes seen as unmanly.
  • When yawning, always cover your mouth and say, “Excuse me”.
  • When drinking in some Australian pubs, you can signal that you can win a fight with anyone in the bar simply by finishing your drink, turning the glass upside down and placing the glass squarely on the bar.
  • Australians are very much into sports, thus, any type of sportsmanlike gestures, such as congratulating a good performance or being a good loser, are appreciated. Good sportsmanship is highly respected in Australia.



  • Bangladeshis will shake the hand of a Western man, but if the Bangladeshi meets a woman of either nationality, he or she will just nod their head while being introduced.
  • Approximately one quarter of the population in Bangladesh is Muslim, thus, the proper greeting is the Aslam-O-Alikum.
  • It is considered unclean if you transfer food from your plate to another’s plate, even if it’s your spouse’s plate.
  • Please remove your shoes before you enter a mosque in Bangladesh. If you see that other people are washing their feet too, do the same.
  • Bangladeshis are quite implicit/indirect communicators. They tend to communicate in long, rich and contextualized sentences which only make sense when properly understood in relation to body language.



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Editor-in-Chief: Zaufyshan Haseeb


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