Vol 12, Issue No. 7 – July 2013

Dear Friend

With my 50th birthday round the corner, I continue in my life-zone self-exploration. Every individual goes through different experiences in life, based on their culture, upbringing, education and life events, but there are certain areas, which we all can relate to, with a few minor variations. Last month we talked about the physical, emotional and financial Life zones, while today we will delve into the Social, Intellectual and Spiritual Life zones.


First Decade of Life – Boundaries, social norms conditioning and a fierce tussle between trust and non-trust
Second Decade of Life – The most important time in this life-zone; Foundations of Social intelligence are being formed. Peer pressure coerces certain behaviours. Party life or life of the party
Third Decade of Life – Family and social life are juxtaposed at this stage. Most social life is either through work or through children. The tussle of trust and non trust re-emerges in the professional life

Fourth Decade of Life – An attempt to recapture the social life of the past decades, but a restlessness at the futility of party life and waning energies!
Fifth Decade of Life – Newer connections with more like-minded people, as well as a need to connect to the roots.


First Decade of Life – High speed learning. Mind is a sponge that absorbs all
Second Decade of Life – Wariness at the multitudes of learning. Ambivalence at career choices
Third Decade of Life – Application of all the educational theories into practical life. Making decisions logically, rather than emotionally

Fourth Decade of Life – A need to learn more about everything in the world. Revival of reading and self education
Fifth Decade of Life – A deeper realization of the philosophies of life. A faint calling towards contribution of personal thoughts


First Decade of Life – Children are an epitome of spirituality and innocence -Free spirited beings
Second Decade of Life – an impositions of the adults towards ritualistic religious practices, which can either set a strong base of faith or make a child a rebel
Third Decade of Life – With the challenges in life, realizing the importance of having faith. A shift from just rituals towards a more spiritual connection

Fourth Decade of Life – Questioning the existence of a higher power. Respect for all the religions and reading more about them
Fifth Decade of Life – Finding true spirituality in self-awareness. Performing feats to feed the soul rather than the commercial aspects. The quest to find the life’s purpose starts!

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Featured Articles
17 Self Motivation Techniques

1. Plan for Success

The first step of a successful venture is to take time and careful planning.If you fail to plan then you plan to fail. It can be difficult to make the time for proper planning, but this time is crucial to get any venture off the ground. You might have to wake up 15 minutes early, or go to bed 15 minutes later, but you will never regret this time as it is well spent.

The first order of business in our study of self motivation techniques is to determine what you want to accomplish. This will entail making a list of goals as they relate to your topic. Gold plating is an art in and of itself. Goal should be in two phases- the first being a long-term goal, and then break each goal into bite-size pieces as smaller goals or tasks. Then put these goals into a timeline or a goal map.

Once you have your goal map, you will see the steps needed to reach a long-term goal. Now put a date by each small goal as to when you expect to complete each task. When you complete each task towards a long-term goal, be sure to circle that task on your goal map so that you can monitor your progress.

Now you meet to make a list of “whys.” This will put emotions behind your goals and to make them that much stronger and clearer in your mind. You need to really get down to the root cause of why you want to accomplish these goals. Maybe you want to have more time with your kids, or send them to a good school. What will self motivate you? Maybe you want to be with travel and see the world. Be sure to make these “whys” specific as you possibly can.

2. Eliminate Negativity

There will always be people who seem against you and your success in one way or another. You cannot eliminate all of these people from your life as some of them will be your own family. The key is to realize that they do not understand your enthusiasm and why you want change in your life.

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The #1 Reason Why Top Talent Leaves An Organisation

The world’s high profile and top earning companies are not immune to the everyday challenges that the rest of the business realm experiences. They too can suffer a hard time maintaining highly talented employees; even the cream of the crop in the most senior positions can end up leaving their office with a view, and 7+ figure annual salary.

So why do the best and brightest walk out the door despite having been courted by their organisation and paid huge sums of money? Basically they leave for the same reasons as everyone else – poor people management and a lack of inspiration.

Five reasons top talent heads for the door
The top reasons why large companies lose their top talent as:

  1. Big company bureaucracy – Being told to follow the rules that make no sense leaves employees (even senior ones) with a feeling that they lack input.
  2. Failing to find a project that ignites the passion of their talent – Top talent isn’t driven by money and power, but by the opportunity to be a part of something huge, that will change the world, and for which they are really passionate. Failing to ask top employees if they’re enjoying their current projects can mean those employees become disenfranchised and then decide to move on.
  3. Poor annual performance reviews – A rushed review leaves the impression that the boss really isn’t interested in the employee’s long-term future with the company.
  4. No discussion around career development – Go-getters want to have discussions with their leaders about their career paths. However, most managers never engage with their employees about where they see their careers heading.
  5. Shifting whims – Top talent hates to be ‘jerked around’. If you commit to a project that they will be heading up, you’ve got to give them enough opportunity to deliver what they’ve promised.

Banish the bureaucracy

The number one reason why top talent jumps ship, is not surprising. As a company culture coach (and earlier in my career in the corporate world), I have seen (and experienced firsthand) businesses driven by Container Managers. Container Managers thrive in their environment by creating boundaries and setting clear-cut procedures to communicate “how things must be done”

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Editor’s Choice

Book of the Month / Previous Workshop / Psyche’s Realm

Manuscript Found in Accra

by: Paulo Coelho


The latest novel from the #1 internationally best-selling author of The Alchemist.

There is nothing wrong with anxiety.
Although we cannot control God’s time, it is part of the human condition to want to receive the thing we are waiting for as quickly as possible.
Or to drive away whatever is causing our fear. . . .
Anxiety was born in the very same moment as mankind. And since we will never be able to master it, we will have to learn to live with it—just as we have learned to live with storms.

July 14, 1099. Jerusalem awaits the invasion of the crusaders who have surrounded the city’s gates. There, inside the ancient city’s walls, men and women of every age and every faith have gathered to hear the wise words of a mysterious man known only as the Copt. He has summoned the townspeople to address their fears with truth:

“Tomorrow, harmony will become discord. Joy will be replaced by grief. Peace will give way to war. . . . None of us can know what tomorrow will hold, because each day has its good and its bad moments. So, when you ask your questions, forget about the troops outside and the fear inside. Our task is not to leave a record of what happened on this date for those who will inherit the Earth; history will take care of that. Therefore, we will speak about our daily lives, about the difficulties we have had to face.”

ISBN-10: 0385367783
ISBN-13: 978-0385367783

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Psyche’s Realm: The Origin of our Thoughts

Thoughts and the Brain

Where our thoughts originate? Are they random product of the brain? Thoughts and the Brain: Where our thoughts originate? Are they product of the brain? The Origin of our Thoughts

“The thought-power and willpower are generated in the mind. Numerous mind boggling examples of the immensity and trenchancy of these mental powers are available in the history of mankind.”

Is the source of our thoughts physical or spiritual? The Unification Thought explains that we have internal intellect and external intellect. That is because we have not only physical mind (brain), but also spiritual mind. According to The Principle intellect, emotions and will are functions of the spiritual mind. Of course our physical brain is like a radio receiver. It can catch the thoughts coming from the spiritual mind.

Our brain and our spirit mind are in constant give and take. The brain can also reason and create logical connections, but on much more limited level. These, sometimes misleading, limitations of our physical mind are well studied in psychology. They are used by manipulative people to distort our perception of reality.

The internal struggle of thoughts

In fact, within ourselves there is a constant struggle between the thoughts coming from the spiritual mind and those from the physical brain. Here is a simple example: When we wake up in the morning, there are two contradicting thoughts: Our spiritual mind says, “Get up”, but the physical mind immediately contradicts, “I want to sleep more”. That is because our spirit does not need to sleep, but the physical mind needs.

It’s important to understand this internal war. The physical mind will start bringing numerous excuses for it’s cause until it overcomes the thoughts driving from the spiritual mind. Thus, the physical mind constantly subjugates and manipulates the spirit mind in this way. We all have one internal manipulator that controls us – our physical brain. As a result, mind and body can never be united. We are subjugated by our physical desires and needs.

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Cross Cultural Awareness

Global Non-Verbal Signals – Iran & Turkey


  • When you meet someone in either the Republic of Ireland or in Northern Ireland, a firm handshake is appreciated.
  • Eye contact denotes trust and is maintained during a greeting.
  • It is customary to shake hands with older children.
  • Greetings tend to be warm and friendly and often turn into conversations.
  • Women are always seated first. The most appropriate way to sit is to cross your ankles or one knee over the other knee. To cross your ankle over your knee is considered informal.
  • If you are invited to an Irish home be on time (chances are food has been cooked and being late could spoil it)
  • Bring a box of good chocolates, a good bottle of wine for to the host.
  • Offer to help with clearing the dishes after a meal.
  • Table manners are relatively relaxed and informal.
  • The Irish are generally rather casual and quickly move to first names.
  • Many businesspeople do not have business cards, so you should not be offended if you are not offered one in return.
  • Perhaps the most offensive gesture in Ireland would be to refuse to buy a round of drinks in a pub when it’s your turn to buy.
  • When waiting in a line, be respectful and never push or shove your way ahead.

Czech Republic

  • Always shake hands while in a formal or informal atmosphere. This applies to both your arrival and departure. 
  • Wait to be invited before using someone’s first name or an informal greeting, as these are all signs of friendship.
  • The offer to move to the informal is generally offered by the woman, the older person, or the person of higher status.
  • Do not try to schedule meetings on Friday afternoon as many Czechs leave for their country cottages after lunch.
  • Do not remove your suit jacket unless the highest-ranking Czech does so.
  • Many businesses close during August.
  • Punctuality for meetings is taken extremely seriously.
  • Maintain direct eye contact while speaking.
  • Do not discuss business being a guest at home. Czechs separate their business and personal lives.
  • Table manners are rather formal in Czech Republic.
  • Remain standing until invited to sit down. You may be shown to a particular seat.
  • Never applaud while in a church, whether you are there for a wedding, concert, or other event.



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