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Vol 12, Issue No. 2 – February 2013

Dear Friend

During my thesis in Developmental Psychology, there was a question, where people had to answer, “What would make them happy?” and about 74% replied that their life would be much happier if they had more money. Does money buy happiness?

Let me take you to the wonderful world called “The Billionaire’s club”. Several mansions, vacation homes, private jets, lavish parties, flowing champagne and caviar, ever- increasing social circle – Lifestyle of the rich and famous!! You would think they are the happiest in the world – Think again !!!!

The entire wealth cannot fill the void they feel within. They cannot trust people as they fear, that these friends are after their money. The only people they can have a decent heart to heart conversation are their therapists, who are sworn confidentiality as professional ethics. Even within the crowd these pseudo-happy people feel lonely. Wealth, instead of giving them peace, causes them greater anxiety of losing it.

While we fantasize about being wealthy, the excuses we make from our families of not spending enough time with them is, that we are toiling towards making our family’s and our future generations comfortable. But if we provide abundant wealth we are ruining the future of our children. I want to provide for my children but I don’t want to tarnish their lives with too much indulgence.

We have live instances where riches have wrecked lives. Examples of lavish households, Christina and Alexander Onassis, both heirs to Onassis empire died with the poison of an affluent lifestyle. We await the fall of the last heir Athina, who is already going through therapy, to cope with her stressful life. Read More

Featured Articles
10 Things Happy People Do Differently


“Happiness is having a large, caring, close-knit family in another city.” — George Burns

How happy are you and why? This is a question I spend a fair amount of time thinking about, not only as it applies to my own levels of happiness, but also as it applies to my family, friends, and the people who I work with. Since graduating with my master’s degree in positive psychology, I’ve worked with and observed thousands of people in a wide variety of settings, and happy people just flow with the groove of life in a unique way. Here is what they do differently:

They build a strong social fabric. Happy people stay connected to their families, neighbors, places of worship, and communities. These strong connections act as a buffer to depression and create strong, meaningful connections. The rate of depression has increased dramatically in the last 50 to 75 years. The World Health Organization predicts that by 2020, depression will be the second leading cause of mortality in the world, impacting nearly one-third of all adults. While several forces are likely behind this increase, one of the most important factors may be the disconnection from people and their families and communities.

They engage in activities that fit their strengths, values and lifestyle. One size does not fit all when it comes to happiness strategies. You tailor your workout to your specific fitness goals — happy people do the same thing with their emotional goals. Some strategies that are known to promote happiness are just too corny for me, but the ones that work best allow me to practice acts of kindness, express gratitude, and become fully engaged. Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky offers a wonderful “Person-Activity Fit Diagnostic” in her book The How of Happiness. Read More

Team Building Benefits When Team Members Coach Each Other

Businesses that consistently perform at the top of their game often have one thing going for them that less successful companies don’t: a strong team. Because of this, businesses that are looking for the chance to take a larger hold within their markets are going to want to look into team building activities and options. Coaching and mentoring in the workplace – just like on a sports field – are extremely beneficial for team building.

What are the benefits of team building that come from having members coach one another?

1. Coaching and mentoring encourages staff members to make a connection. When you’re able to bring together employees across generations, employees who have different skill sets and ideas, you’ll find that relationships form and employees are able to count on one another.

2. By encouraging members of your staff to both coach and be coached, you’ll find that everyone is continuing to learn. Building a team will benefit your business because employees are going to recognize that everyone has something to contribute, and each staffer – from those at an entry level right up to the executives – will recognize that they have somewhere to turn when they feel a bit stuck. Most importantly, this contributes to keeping fresh ideas coming.

3. Coaching allows employees to receive praise for what they are doing well. Ultimately, it’s important to make sure that your staff get recognition for those things that they are doing well and not just hearing about the areas where they can improve; when staff members know that their accomplishments are recognized and know that there’s value in what they are doing. Read More

 

Editor’s Choice

Book of the Month / Previous Workshop / Psyche’s Realm

The Twelve Tribes of Hattie


by: Ayana Mathis

Description:

The arrival of a major new voice in contemporary fiction. A debut of extraordinary distinction: Ayana Mathis tells the story of the children of the Great Migration through the trials of one unforgettable family.

In 1923, fifteen-year-old Hattie Shepherd flees Georgia and settles in Philadelphia, hoping for a chance at a better life. Instead, she marries a man who will bring her nothing but disappointment and watches helplessly as her firstborn twins succumb to an illness a few pennies could have prevented.

Hattie gives birth to nine more children whom she raises with grit and mettle and not an ounce of the tenderness they crave. She vows to prepare them for the calamitous difficulty they are sure to face in their later lives, to meet a world that will not love them, a world that will not be kind. Captured here in twelve luminous narrative threads, their lives tell the story of a mother’s monumental courage and the journey of a nation. Beautiful and devastating, Ayana Mathis’s The Twelve Tribes of Hattie is wondrous from first to last—glorious, harrowing, unexpectedly uplifting, and blazing with life. An emotionally transfixing page-turner, a searing portrait of striving in the face of insurmountable adversity, an indelible encounter with the resilience of the human spirit and the driving force of the American dream.

ISBN-10: 0385350287
ISBN-13: 978-0385350280

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Psyche’s Realm
Free Your Spiritual Mind: The Real Meaning of Mind and Body Unity

Can you make the distinction between your spiritual mind and your physical minds? Our physical mind is always self centered. It doubts, observes externally and criticizes. It brings confusion, anxiety and fear, while our spiritual mind is never confused and never worries. Physical mind can never feel God and the spirit world, while our spiritual mind is constantly connected with them. Liberate your Spiritual Mind, that’s your only way to God.

Recognize the difference

I will give you few simple hints. Our spiritual mind never doubts; it is never nervous, confused or self-centered. But our physical mind is created to care for the self preservation, so it leads us to be self centered. It observes externally without sensing the heart and motivation of the people around. So it often leads to misinterpretations and fear. That fear can easily trigger antagonism and criticism.

Now you can understand why physical mind became the origin of all disbelieve, materialism, gossiping, negativity, struggles and wars. Depression and illness are also result of the physical mind reversal of dominion over our spirit. Not having the sense to God, it only brings confusion, anxiety and fear, which brings us into more problems, stress and sicknesses.

Why it is so? Physical mind can never feel God and the spirit world, it can never connect to them no matter how much it tries. Read More

 

Cross Cultural Awareness
Global Non-Verbal Signals – Argentina & Brazil

Argentina

  • A warm handshake is the custom here. As men become well acquainted, the handshake might be accompanied by a light touch on the forearm or elbow. Good friends will greet with an abrazo, or embrace. This may also include several hearty pats on the back.
  • When conversing, Argentines may stand closer than North Americans or Europeans do. Also, an Argentine man may even touch the arm or shoulder, or even finger the lapel of the man he is speaking with.
  • Gestures to avoid in Argentina: -Standing with the hands on the hips suggests anger, or a challenge. -Yawning in public is rude. -Slapping the inside of the thighs near the groin is considered an obscene male gesture. -Never pour wine by grasping the neck of the bottle with the hand and rotating the hand backward so that the palm turns upward. Also, always pour with the right hand, never the left.
  • Argentines have strong national pride over their excellent red wines; if and when toasts are made, the proper gesture is simply to raise your glass to those around you and say ‘salud’ (which means ‘health’), then sip.
  • To indicate you have finished eating, cross the knife and fork (tines down) in the middle of your plate.
  • Since one of Argentina’s most popular sports is soccer, a popular gesture conveying exuberance and victory is to raise the fist upward emphatically, with the knuckles of the fingers pointing outward.

 

Brazil

  • In a marketplace, if a vendor holds his hand out, fingers extended and flips the thumb back and forth it merely means, ‘There isn’t any left; I don’t have any more.’
  • When conversing, good eye contact is important. To not do so is considered impolite. 
  • A good, warm handshake is the traditional greeting in Brazil. However, because the Brazilians show affection easily, among add male friends the abraco (Portuguese spelling), or embrace, will be added.
  • People in Brazil will also shake hands when arriving and departing. There may also be a touching of the forearm or elbow, and often a pat on the back.
  • If you are conducting business, be certain to bring a plentiful supply of business cards because these are always exchanged. Also, during business meetings expect to be served (often) small cups of very strong coffee.
  • Since this is more of a touching society, people stand close together when conversing or when standing in lines.
  • To add emphasis to a statement, a Brazilian may snap the fingers while whipping the hand down own and out.
  • To express appreciation, a Brazilian may appear to pinch his earlobe between thumb and forefinger. For example, if you’ve enjoyed a meal this gesture may be used. Among Brazilians, to dramatize it even further, they will reach behind the head and grasp the opposite earlobe.
  • When carrying any article along the streets-a pair of shoes, a bottle, a box of candy-it is customary to have it wrapped in a bag or some paper.

 

 

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