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Vol 11, Issue No. 12 – December 2012

Dear Friend

The beauty of life is that we don’t know what the future holds. It is always distant and far away. Despite life’s unpredictability, we continue our lives in the same old repetitive patterns. To gain a new perspective, I would like to request you to dwell on this thought – What if the world was actually ending on Dec 21st? What will you do during these last 3 weeks? How will you spend these precious days?

  • Time in praying for redemption of your sins?
  • Spend time with the family; call your parents whom you haven’t been in touch with the past year, except for last Christmas?
  • Still be hating people from other races and religion?
  • Using the not so good plates for food and keeping the fine China for guests?
  • Plotting schemes against the most hated colleague at work?
  • Gorging on food and alcohol as if there was no tomorrow?
  • Stressing over insignificant things like difficult customers, rude bosses?
  • Would you finally go for thrill sports like bunjy jumping or sky diving, because you don’t have fear of death anymore?
  • Be still looking in the mirror, fretting over wrinkles, spots, long nose, receding hairline etc?
  • Keep grudges against all the people who hurt you in life?
  • Sleeping incessantly?
  • Cursing at the other drivers on the road?
  • Staying home (in your shell) and never travelling to other places you always wanted to see?
  • Indulging in self pity, saying why, oh! why me?
  • Live each day as the previous one?

 

Quoting Osho “those who never knew how to live, will not know how to die” The age old cliché that we appreciate things, when we lose them, is so true in our case. We take everything for granted. We are certain that the sun will rise tomorrow, we will have our health or our independence; but once a catastrophe hits our life – the whole perspective changes.

Why is it that terminally ill patients start living each moment of their lives. People with some kind of ailment start looking after their body and health. Divorced, separated, jilted partners start appreciating the value of companionship.

Why do we need to have a wake-up call, before we can rouse from this slumber of perpetual conformity? Why don’t we live life to the fullest – right here right now? Why do we keep procrastinating those “one of these days” wishes and implement them immediately? What are we afraid of? Why don’t we take the risks? On a query to the question, what if the world ends in a couple of weeks? I got the following responses:

‘I will learn to fly a plane.’
‘I will take a flight to Paris’
‘I would shop at the most expensive place, today.’
‘I will read all the letters and sweet notes I received.’
‘I’ll write a story about my life’
‘I will fulfill all my dreams.’
‘I would ask for forgiveness from all whom I hurt and forgive those who hurt me.’ Read More

Featured Articles
10 Management Don’ts

Common workplace behaviours often develop into standard management practices.  Many are destructive. Discover 10 such practices and find out what to do instead.

Despite our book learning, we tend to learn how things are done in the world of work from our experiences at work. Usually, our Master Mentor is the person vacating the job we’ve just landed, or the boss who makes sure we know the “right” way to do things.

By watching and observing what happens when things don’t go as planned, we get a pretty good idea of how things should be handled. We may learn that when we need to get something done, we get tough. When following procedures doesn’t work, we go around people.

Whatever our experiences in the trenches, they will likely shape the practices we employ at work – some good, some maybe not so good. To help us sort through and evaluate our work practices, here are 10 Management Don’ts – things managers should never do – and what to do instead: 

1. Don’t create a policy every time somebody makes a mistake
Don’t overreact. People make mistakes. Everyone does. Sometimes people make big mistakes, like getting distracted on the internet when a friend sends a link to an online game or sending an icy email to everyone in the company. 

It’s usually a one-time goof-up. Get over it. You don’t have to build another wall around Fort Knox just because somebody accidentally took a paper clip home.

What to do instead – Have a productive one-on-one conversation about what went wrong, what problems it caused, what the individual should have done (or not) and why. Use questions to make it a learning moment for the employee so that they can discover how to fix it.

2. Don’t lie
In other words, don’t distort the truth, withhold information, or make things up, even if it’s for a good reason. Don’t keep employees in the dark. Don’t try to manipulate people to control their behaviours or feelings.

What to do instead – To avoid keeping employees in the dark and making them feel you don’t trust them, be open and honest with them. When something isn’t working out, say it. When things are going well, let people know. When you have concerns, share them. When you need something next week and you’re worried it won’t get done, tell the person your concerns. Read More

Learn from Failure –  How It Increases Your Chances of Succeeding

Learn from failure, you probably have heard it all from articles, stories and books. I won’t bore you with them here. This article is to drive home some key points about learning from failure. Lessons you probably are very familiar with but need reminder about. Or if you are new to this thing called failure then it will serve as a springboard to better success. I hope.

You hear stories about failure. You hear stories about success. You hear how failure is the mother of all successes. Yet, you are still fearful of failure. As if it is a black mark that will appear in your report card of life if you did fail. And fail you will, if you are like the rest of us mere mortals. Does that mean you stop trying? 

1. Take The Risk and Pay The Price
Nothing ventured, nothing gain. You have to be willing to take the risk venture beyond the comfort zone regardless of what area you are in to gain some form of success. Think about the entrepreneurs, scientists, leaders and businesses which took the path less trodden and how they were rewarded handsomely.

If you are willing to pay the price with the risk you take, then the returns may just surprise you. But, but what if I fail, you ask.

2. It’s OK to Fail, Really
Yes, it’s OK to fail. The adage we learn from failure is true. Be open with your mind, eyes and ears. The lessons are there for you to understand and do better next time. Think about what you have done right, what you can do better and what you should stop doing. That is one of the easiest ways to analyze how to learn from failure. One side point, in cases like these I dislike to use the word failure. Setback is my preferred word.

3. Experience is the Best Teacher
Think about this, if you do not fail in any of your endeavor, how do you learn to be better? How do you become wiser? People say experience is the best teacher. If you accept that to be true then you need to accept failure as one of the many lessons you gain from experience. So, you get to learn from failure. It’s that simple. Think about failure as lessons paid in the journey of life. Read More

 

Editor’s Choice

What Every BODY is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent’s Guide to Speed-Reading People


by: Joe Navarro, Marvin Karlins

Description:

Read this book and send your nonverbal intelligence soaring. Joe Navarro, a former FBI counterintelligence officer and a recognized expert on nonverbal behavior, explains how to “speed-read” people: decode sentiments and behaviors, avoid hidden pitfalls, and look for deceptive behaviors. You’ll also learn how your body language can influence what your boss, family, friends, and strangers think of you. You will discover.

ISBN-10: 0061438294
ISBN-13: 978-0061438295

A Glimpse of Intek’s Previous Workshops


Sales Conference
Al Mazroui Medical – Jebel Hafeet
Dubai – UAE, 2012
Psyche’s Realm
Make Your Yoga Steps Easy And Comfortable

In the dusty and stressful environment it is very important for everyone to follow yoga steps daily at least half an hour. It is considered that yoga needs a strong concentration of mind, body, spirit and it should be done appropriately in sufficient time. The person who has practiced yoga knows well about the yoga paws. Yoga improves our mind concentration, maintain body posture, and bring spirit closer to God if it is being done in an appropriate way. There are so many stylish yoga mats are available in the market that make your yoga steps easy and comfortable. They provide relief to both body and mind during yoga poses.

You can search and choose the best yoga mat according to your requirement as well as that fits your level, lifestyle and budget. The basic foam mat made of PVC is mostly used yoga mat and known as the cheapest yoga mat in the market because of durability, easily washable and available in many varieties. Sticky mat is considered as very light and reasonably durable, commonly used by those who are just starter of yoga. These mats have easy symbols indicating the proper positioning of your body parts means the feet or hands while doing yoga poses. Mats with such symbols are very helpful for those who started to learn about yoga and its various poses.

A rubber mat is another popular yoga mat having more cushion so it can be comfortable to practice yoga. Another mats made from natural fibers such as cotton and hemp are also available in the market in varieties of sizes, colors and thicknesses. Such mats are capable to absorb moisture and sweat. Mats are used during yoga for comfort and safety purpose. Read More

 

Cross Cultural Awareness
Global Non-Verbal Signals – Mexico & United States

Mexico

  • A warm, somewhat soft handshake is the customary greeting among both men and women. Men should let the woman make the first move toward handshaking. After the second or third meeting, Mexican men may begin with or add the abrazo, the embrace along with a few pats on the back. Women friends will embrace lightly and pretend to kiss a cheek.
  • In some areas of Mexico, you may encounter an unusual addition to the handshake where, after gripping the palm, the two people slide their hands upward to grasp each other’s thumbs.
  • Many Mexicans are ‘touch oriented.’ This means they may linger over a handshake, they may touch the forearm or elbow, or they may even casually finger the lapel of the other person’s suit. All these touches merely signify a willingness to be friendly nothing more.
  • If a man stands with his hands on his hips, it suggests hostility.
  • Deference is shown to the elderly, so give way to them in public and don’t object if they are waited on first.
  • Never visit churches or religious sites while wearing short touch the forearm or elbow, shorts, tank tops, or cut-off shirts or shorts.

 

United States

  • A firm handshake, accompanied by direct eye contact, is the standard greeting in the United States. Occasionally, among very good friends who have not seen each other for long intervals, women may briefly hug other women, and men may quickly kiss the cheek of a woman. Males rarely hug one another, however. Occasionally, men may shake hands with the left hand either covering the handshake or lightly gripping the forearm.
  • Direct eye contact in both social and business situations is very important. Not doing so implies boredom or disinterest.
  • Americans generally respect queues and will form lines in an orderly fashion. To shove one’s way into such a line will probably generate both anger and verbal complaints.
  • Waving ‘hello’ or ‘good bye’ is done by extending the arm, palm facing down and waving the hand up a down at the wrist joint. Another variation is to raise the arm, palm outward, and move the whole arm and hand back and forth like an upside down pendulum. This may be important to know because in many countries this is a signal for ‘no’.
  • Many Americans become uncomfortable with periods of silence. Therefore in business or social situations, if a gap occurs they will quickly try to fill in with conversation.

 

 

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Editor-in-Chief: Zaufyshan Haseeb

 

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