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Dear Folks:
PERSPECTIVE is one of the most precious assets I've gained over the years I've lived. Or rather, I should say my *awareness* of the VALUE of perspective is the asset I've gained. As the saying goes, "Wise indeed is the person who knows what they don't know." (I must be getting very wise, because I am constantly discovering more I don't know.)
The unspoken lesson from this saying, is about what happens when you know you don't know. And that is, the sooner you know you don't know, the sooner you are likely to do something about it.
So let me suggest that one thing you don't know, is how you will feel towards the end of your life. Perspective usually comes at a price. For many, the price is the regret of not having lived life differently.
I was struck by an article along these lines, by Richard Leider, a counselor, trainer, career coach and author. I hope you take the time to contemplate these words and how they might affect your life choices.
Best of Luck
Haseeb T Hasan
MAKE YOUR DECISIONS THE WAY SENIOR CITIZENS WISH THEY HAD.
For nearly 25 years, I've been doing interviews with senior citizens, asking them to look back over their lives and talk about
what they've learned. I've conducted more than 1,000 interviews with people who were successful in their jobs, who retired from leading companies after distinguished careers. Almost without exception, when these older people look back, they say the same things -- things that are instructive and useful for the rest of
us as we make decisions going forward in our lives.
1. They say that if they could live their lives over again, they would be more reflective. They got so caught up in the doing, they
say, that they often lost sight of the meaning. Usually it took a crisis for them to look at their lives in perspective and try to reestablish the context. Looking back, they wish they had stopped at regular intervals to look at the big picture.
They also sounded a warning: Life picks up speed. The first half of your life is about getting prepared and getting
established. Then time shifts gears. You hit the second half of your life, and everything moves faster. Days turn into weeks,
weeks into months, and all of a sudden, you're 65 years old. Looking back, they say, you realize that time is the most precious
currency in life. And as they got older, having time for reflection became even more important.
2. If they could live their lives over again, they would take more risks. In relationships, they would have been more courageous. And in expressing their creative side, they would have taken more chances. I think it was Oliver Wendell Holmes who said, "Most of us go to our graves with our music still inside us." Many of these people felt that, despite of their successes, their music was still inside them. Almost all of them said that they felt most alive when they took risks. Just being busy from business made them numb. Aliveness came with learning, growing, stretching, exploring.
3. If they could live their lives over again, they would understand what really gave them fulfillment. I call that the power of purpose: doing something that contributes to life, adding value to life beyond yourself. Purpose is always outside yourself, beyond your ego or your financial self-interest.
We all want both success and fulfillment. Success is often measured in external ways, but there's an internal measure of
success, and it's called fulfillment. Fulfillment comes from realizing your talents -- adding value and living by your values.
Fulfillment comes from integrity, from being who you are and expressing who you are as fully as possible. It doesn't have to do with your job description or the specifics of your work. It has to do with how you bring your self to your work, regardless of what that work is.
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